[Text Post 02]//Locked from Micchy

[dangerousidol]

What do you do when one of your best friends here tells you something really scary and painful?

How are you supposed to deal with that?

How are you not supposed to be terrified of them?

Especially when they told you they'd protect you from any danger. When they've been nothing but nice to you, but what they did makes them a really bad person. When they still might be a bad person, but they're trying not to be.

I told them I can't talk to them until I figure things out. This feels worse than a breakup. Anyone have any advice?

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[loveisanopendoor]

[ Well, that certainly doesn't sound good... ]

Well, just because they did something bad doesn't necessarily mean they're a bad person...sometimes good people do bad things. And if they did it a long time ago, maybe they're trying to be better and atone for what they did? I mean, if they've been your friend up until now, you kind of have to decide for yourself if you trust that they're trying to become better. Especially if they've been nice to you and all. It's not like they were lying about being your friend, I hope. Secrets can be a little hard to swallow, yeah. But people's pasts aren't always something pretty...

You can't help feeling the way you feel about a person, though. If you're scared of them, there's no way you can flip a switch and say you're not scared anymore. It's really your call whether or not you want to keep being their friend, since you can't force yourself to stay friends with someone you're not comfortable with. But I think you should always go with your gut and follow your heart. You know, trust your instinct and do what you think is best for yourself. Do you think you can still be their friend, after what they told you? Or do you think that fear is going to get in the way?

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[dangerousidol]

The things they did were for selfish and delusional reasons. They know it's wrong now, but they wound up being the reason that several people died... I should have known something was up, because they seemed to get a little possessive with me when I talked about other people. After hearing about what happened to a girl they really liked, how she died because of that persons delusions, I got even more afraid.

What if they started treating me like that girl? Even if they tried not to, it's still scary to think about.

It would have been a lot easier if they confessed their love to me and I could have just shot them down gently. This is a lot, lot worse.

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[loveisanopendoor]

Oh geez, that sounds really creepy...they might not be an entirely bad person or anything, but it sounds like a pretty scary situation. Especially if someone they liked died because of something like that...I don't know. If that's the case, telling them you can't talk to them until you figure things out was a good idea on your part. It sounds like they need to figure a lot out, themselves, since, you know, being possessive isn't exactly giving them any points either.

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[dangerousidol]

I'm not a fan of possessive people. I gave them the benefit of the doubt, because they didn't come from my world, so they didn't know my idol self. It's one thing where I have fans be obsessive and possessive of me. I had security to take care of that. But here? I don't want to hurt anyone.

[loveisanopendoor]

An idol...

[ She doesn't know what that is; probably some kind of a celebrity or someone famous, since she has fans and security... ]

If you do decide to keep being friends with them, at least for the time being after, you probably should at least distance yourself. Make sure they know that you don't want them to be clingy, too.

[dangerousidol]

You think they'd listen if I asked them that?

[loveisanopendoor]

If they don't, it's not so different from letting them down gently with a breakup.

...Only I'd advise being less gentle, in that case.

[dangerousidol]

I think when I'm ready to tell them anything, I'll stay in a different town. In case something goes wrong.

[loveisanopendoor]

You do whatever makes you most comfortable, really. If you're gonna keep a friendship going, you should at the very least do it on terms you're not scared in...

[dangerousidol]

Have you ever had to deal with someone like this?