[Text Post 02]//Locked from Micchy

[dangerousidol]

What do you do when one of your best friends here tells you something really scary and painful?

How are you supposed to deal with that?

How are you not supposed to be terrified of them?

Especially when they told you they'd protect you from any danger. When they've been nothing but nice to you, but what they did makes them a really bad person. When they still might be a bad person, but they're trying not to be.

I told them I can't talk to them until I figure things out. This feels worse than a breakup. Anyone have any advice?

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[loveisanopendoor]

[ Well, that certainly doesn't sound good... ]

Well, just because they did something bad doesn't necessarily mean they're a bad person...sometimes good people do bad things. And if they did it a long time ago, maybe they're trying to be better and atone for what they did? I mean, if they've been your friend up until now, you kind of have to decide for yourself if you trust that they're trying to become better. Especially if they've been nice to you and all. It's not like they were lying about being your friend, I hope. Secrets can be a little hard to swallow, yeah. But people's pasts aren't always something pretty...

You can't help feeling the way you feel about a person, though. If you're scared of them, there's no way you can flip a switch and say you're not scared anymore. It's really your call whether or not you want to keep being their friend, since you can't force yourself to stay friends with someone you're not comfortable with. But I think you should always go with your gut and follow your heart. You know, trust your instinct and do what you think is best for yourself. Do you think you can still be their friend, after what they told you? Or do you think that fear is going to get in the way?

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[walkersystem]

do you know why they did w hat they did? cause mybe they had a reason and even if its a bad reason then you'll know why
sometimes people do bad things to protect other people but sometmes they do them just to be bad

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[kingofthetvworld]

[It takes everything in Teddie not to write "PUNCH THEM IN THE FACE," but his own experiences tell him to be...ugh...rational. He'll do his best to text good for a serious topic, but no promises.]

it doesnt feel good when ppl r scared of you, are they rly trying to be good? its hard to be the opposit of wht u were but not impawsible

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[stonebones]

Do you still want to be friends with them?

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[a_sin_for_him]

Bad actions don't make a person bad. They simply make a person capable of bad acts. Sentient beings are more complex and many-faceted than to simply be wedged into categories of 'good' and 'bad'.

If this person has never given you any reason to be frightened of them or assume they mean you harm, being aware of actions in their past has no bearing on that. It doesn't make them any different than who they were, you simply understand them better now.

And if you turn your back on someone struggling to be better and overcome their failings, you're capable of bad acts, as well.

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[doesntdomuch]

[Oh, this doesn't sound good.]

Well I don't know how bad it is, and usually when one of my "friends" mentions something about being evil I already knew that they were. So I don't know how useful that would be.

But in my experience if they say they don't want to be the bad guy and you believe him, it can't hurt to try to fix the relationship.

Still, if you're terrified of him maybe you should keep your distance for awhile.

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[preybeforemeals]

[This is the sort of thing Tsukiyama is really not comfortable having his name attached to, but it's something that's striking a little too personally for him to leave it alone. Anon text it is, then...]

I won't say that you shouldn't be afraid of them, if you believe that you have good reason to be. Just the same, there's something to be said for the fact that they told you at all, isn't there?

It's possible that whomever this is has done terrible things, but in that case it would be to their benefit to keep quiet about it. Isn't it likewise possible that they told you because they didn't want to deceive you or lie by omission anymore?