[Text Post 02]//Locked from Micchy

[dangerousidol]

What do you do when one of your best friends here tells you something really scary and painful?

How are you supposed to deal with that?

How are you not supposed to be terrified of them?

Especially when they told you they'd protect you from any danger. When they've been nothing but nice to you, but what they did makes them a really bad person. When they still might be a bad person, but they're trying not to be.

I told them I can't talk to them until I figure things out. This feels worse than a breakup. Anyone have any advice?

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[loveisanopendoor]

[ Well, that certainly doesn't sound good... ]

Well, just because they did something bad doesn't necessarily mean they're a bad person...sometimes good people do bad things. And if they did it a long time ago, maybe they're trying to be better and atone for what they did? I mean, if they've been your friend up until now, you kind of have to decide for yourself if you trust that they're trying to become better. Especially if they've been nice to you and all. It's not like they were lying about being your friend, I hope. Secrets can be a little hard to swallow, yeah. But people's pasts aren't always something pretty...

You can't help feeling the way you feel about a person, though. If you're scared of them, there's no way you can flip a switch and say you're not scared anymore. It's really your call whether or not you want to keep being their friend, since you can't force yourself to stay friends with someone you're not comfortable with. But I think you should always go with your gut and follow your heart. You know, trust your instinct and do what you think is best for yourself. Do you think you can still be their friend, after what they told you? Or do you think that fear is going to get in the way?

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[dangerousidol]

The things they did were for selfish and delusional reasons. They know it's wrong now, but they wound up being the reason that several people died... I should have known something was up, because they seemed to get a little possessive with me when I talked about other people. After hearing about what happened to a girl they really liked, how she died because of that persons delusions, I got even more afraid.

What if they started treating me like that girl? Even if they tried not to, it's still scary to think about.

It would have been a lot easier if they confessed their love to me and I could have just shot them down gently. This is a lot, lot worse.

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[loveisanopendoor]

Oh geez, that sounds really creepy...they might not be an entirely bad person or anything, but it sounds like a pretty scary situation. Especially if someone they liked died because of something like that...I don't know. If that's the case, telling them you can't talk to them until you figure things out was a good idea on your part. It sounds like they need to figure a lot out, themselves, since, you know, being possessive isn't exactly giving them any points either.

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[dangerousidol]

I'm not a fan of possessive people. I gave them the benefit of the doubt, because they didn't come from my world, so they didn't know my idol self. It's one thing where I have fans be obsessive and possessive of me. I had security to take care of that. But here? I don't want to hurt anyone.

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[walkersystem]

do you know why they did w hat they did? cause mybe they had a reason and even if its a bad reason then you'll know why
sometimes people do bad things to protect other people but sometmes they do them just to be bad

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[dangerousidol]

From what they told me, it was mostly selfish and delusional. They knew what they were doing was potentially bad, but they still did it.

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[walkersystem]

oh

I don't know ... was it really bad?

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[dangerousidol]

Yeah. People died.

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[kingofthetvworld]

[It takes everything in Teddie not to write "PUNCH THEM IN THE FACE," but his own experiences tell him to be...ugh...rational. He'll do his best to text good for a serious topic, but no promises.]

it doesnt feel good when ppl r scared of you, are they rly trying to be good? its hard to be the opposit of wht u were but not impawsible

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[dangerousidol]

I think so? I still feel like they're keeping a secret from me. But I don't know if I want to know that one. It's already too hard to think about talking to them right now.

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[kingofthetvworld]

im rly sorry rise-chan i dont kno what 2 say. waz it rly rlly bad??

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[dangerousidol]

Yes. I was reminded about how scared I was when I almost died. I'm really scared of them, Teddie, and I don't know what to do.

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[stonebones]

Do you still want to be friends with them?

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[dangerousidol]

I think so? I'm not sure.

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[stonebones]

I think it's easier when you still want to be friends. You trust each other to make sure the bad things don't happen again, at least not for a good reason. You learn to look past what they've done. They do the same for you.

Some things can be really scary, but for me, nothing's scarier than losing my best friends.

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[dangerousidol]

I don't think I want to stay friends with a killer. I'm not sure. I'll think about it some more.

I wish my best friends were here.

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[a_sin_for_him]

Bad actions don't make a person bad. They simply make a person capable of bad acts. Sentient beings are more complex and many-faceted than to simply be wedged into categories of 'good' and 'bad'.

If this person has never given you any reason to be frightened of them or assume they mean you harm, being aware of actions in their past has no bearing on that. It doesn't make them any different than who they were, you simply understand them better now.

And if you turn your back on someone struggling to be better and overcome their failings, you're capable of bad acts, as well.

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[dangerousidol]

There have been a few things that worried me. Just things like being more overprotective than a friend should be sometimes. Telling me they'd protect me when they found out about my past even though I'm not afraid of getting hurt here.

What they told me first wasn't so bad. Just kind of scary. They sounded like a hero when they went on, and then not so much. There was so much delusion and selfishness that it got people killed because of them. They were in love with a girl that they wanted to claim as theirs even though she didn't feel the same, and it got her killed. I think they're afraid that'll happen to me, and that's what scares me. They got jealous when I told them about a girl I liked.

I know they're trying to be a better person, but I'm scared. Not just from the death they caused, the people they've hurt, but because I don't want to wind up like that girl.

They told me that they don't know if they can help people, even if they tried. I think there's something that they're not telling me, even now.

It's hard to trust them right now. I don't know what else to do.

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[a_sin_for_him]

I see. It's a different matter, if you have reason to be afraid beyond simply actions from the past in a different world.

I have little advice. These are complicated matters. Do you share mutual acquaintances?

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[doesntdomuch]

[Oh, this doesn't sound good.]

Well I don't know how bad it is, and usually when one of my "friends" mentions something about being evil I already knew that they were. So I don't know how useful that would be.

But in my experience if they say they don't want to be the bad guy and you believe him, it can't hurt to try to fix the relationship.

Still, if you're terrified of him maybe you should keep your distance for awhile.

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[dangerousidol]

I want to believe, I do.

But I noticed some things while talking with them that makes me think I should take my time to think about this.

I don't know if I can be friends with a killer.

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[doesntdomuch]

[... Oh, he's a murderer.

Well this is a bit different than this nemesis then.]

Mind if I ask what did you notice?

You don't have to tell me if it makes you uncomfortable.

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[preybeforemeals]

[This is the sort of thing Tsukiyama is really not comfortable having his name attached to, but it's something that's striking a little too personally for him to leave it alone. Anon text it is, then...]

I won't say that you shouldn't be afraid of them, if you believe that you have good reason to be. Just the same, there's something to be said for the fact that they told you at all, isn't there?

It's possible that whomever this is has done terrible things, but in that case it would be to their benefit to keep quiet about it. Isn't it likewise possible that they told you because they didn't want to deceive you or lie by omission anymore?

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[dangerousidol]

I know. I just have a really bad experience with people who were really nice to me, and then wound up being killers. Obsessed and possessive, delusional fans, people who just wanted to use me. Then there was the man who tried to 'save me', and that almost caused me to die. I can't get myself to trust people who admit to being killers.

Hearing those things from them just brings all that back again.

I'm not doing this to out them. I'm doing this because I need advice on what to do. I don't want to be a bad person by not giving them a chance, but I don't know if I can ever give them that chance again, no matter how sorry they are.

[She's only comfortable saying all of these things because of how many people had seen her dream, and the one person who could have died because of her dream. There's no sense hiding it anymore.]

[preybeforemeals]

That's fine, as their identity matters very little to me. Outing people is something I tend to take personal offense to, anyway.

There's a difference, though, between liking someone and trusting them. It's entirely possible to care about someone and not trust them at all, and that doesn't make you a bad person.